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Real questions from people in the scene, in their own words. Every answer says what it can’t promise.

Cut-out drawing: a hand holding out a stamped, sealed envelope

Typed as they came in and answered underneath. Nobody is named.

If it’s anonymous, can’t people just trash someone?

“Which means people feel free to say bad shit.”

a senior community member in New York

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There’s nowhere to write it.

Nobody types a comment. Partners answer structured questions about communication, boundaries and safety: yes, no or n/a.

One no is diluted as more people leave feedback, and it fades with age.

can’t promise A person can still answer no when the honest answer was yes. That’s why one answer moves a score a little and a pattern moves it a lot.

the whole answer: If it’s anonymous, can’t people just trash someone?

Can my partner tell what I said about them?

“Then it’s only anonymous to second readers.”

a senior community member in New York

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Sometimes. In a two-person scene, your partner may guess.

Names are never attached to answers. Scores update in delayed, random batches, so a change can’t be pinned to one scene. No screen shows who gave which answers.

can’t promise Batching makes it harder to tell who said what. It can’t make it impossible.

the whole answer: Can my partner tell what I said about them?

Won’t this turn into a popularity contest?

“Oh that’s interesting and sounds like a shit show popularity contest just waiting to happen.”

a senior community member in New York

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Popularity can’t buy a score, and one grudge can’t sink one.

A scene only counts when both people confirm it. A score stays hidden until three different people have left feedback, then moves in delayed, random batches.

A first report counts as much as a veteran’s, and a person reads every one. A no on a boundaries or safety question lowers the score.

can’t promise A scene score is a record of feedback. It isn’t a background check or a safety guarantee. Talk to your partner.

the whole answer: Won’t this turn into a popularity contest?

Does it work at a big party?

“I think the organizer said they’re getting 100+ a night.”

someone returning to the scene, who goes to 100-person parties

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Pairing works by QR code, a spoken passphrase or a link.

A QR code alone fails in a dark, loud room with a scene going on. A passphrase is a few real words you can say across a room, and a link can go out before anyone arrives.

can’t promise Both people need the app on their phone to pair.

the whole answer: Does it work at a big party?

How does feedback work for a group scene?

“What if A and B were great but C fucked up the vibe?”

a community member who plays in groups

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You answer about each person, with n/a for anyone you didn’t play with.

Group scenes mix questions about each person with questions about the scene as a whole. What one person did lands on that person.

can’t promise In a group, people still see who was in the scene. Batching blurs who said what, but a small group is still small.

the whole answer: How does feedback work for a group scene?

Why are there different scores?

“Why is your score only 70? Oh 88. Why are there different scores?”

a senior community member in New York

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There’s one scene score. The other numbers show what it’s made of.

Partners answer questions about the overall experience, about communication, and about boundaries and safety. Each area gets its own number, so you can see where a score comes from.

The scene score combines them and becomes more certain as more people leave feedback.

can’t promise Few scenes means a score close to the starting point of 55. That isn’t a judgement. It’s not much evidence yet.

the whole answer: Why are there different scores?

Do I have to list my limits?

“I am pretty against listing out my limits so I wouldn’t use this function.”

a munch organizer

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No.

Limits are optional. If you add them, they’re encrypted before they’re stored.

can’t promise Leaving them out means a partner learns them the way they always have: by asking you.

the whole answer: Do I have to list my limits?

The basics

What is SceneCheck?

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A trust and accountability platform built by and for kink and play communities.

After real interactions, both partners leave anonymous peer feedback that builds into a verifiable scene score over time. Think of it as a shared reputation layer that we’ve never had before.

the whole answer: What is SceneCheck?

Is my identity protected?

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Yes. We never store or display your phone number.

You pick any display name you want, and a one-way hash is all that connects your account. Your partner never sees your answers. We built it this way because privacy is non-negotiable.

the whole answer: Is my identity protected?

What if someone leaves unfair feedback?

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Both people have to independently confirm an interaction before feedback opens up.

No scene, no feedback. Scores stay hidden until three different people have left feedback. One unfair answer is diluted as more people leave feedback, and it fades with age.

Three days after you leave feedback, a 24-hour window opens where you can revise your answers.

the whole answer: What if someone leaves unfair feedback?

What happens if someone violates consent?

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Every report is read by a person, not an algorithm.

We have a structured reporting system for boundary violations, consent violations, harassment, and more. Confirmed violations impact scene scores and can lead to suspension.

the whole answer: What happens if someone violates consent?

Who can see my scene score?

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People you pair with or have had a scene with, and anyone with a SceneCheck account who opens a pre-vet or showcase link you share.

A showcase link keeps working for anyone who has it until you turn it off or it expires, after 24 hours to 7 days. Nobody can search for you, and your score stays hidden until three different people have left feedback.

the whole answer: Who can see my scene score?

Is SceneCheck free?

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Yes, completely free.

We believe trust infrastructure should be accessible to everyone in the community. Safety is not something we’re willing to put behind a paywall.

the whole answer: Is SceneCheck free?

Something else on your mind?

A person reads every question. If we answer yours here, we quote you by role, never by name, and only if you say yes.